Where’s My Money?

I worked an entire weekend to meet a launch. Not a metaphorical weekend — Friday evening through Monday morning, with calls and emails well after hours because the partner team was in a different time zone, a different country, and the deadline didn't care what time it was on my end.

After 4 p.m. Friday, everyone on the project who would ultimately take the lion's share of the credit was unreachable. Out of office. No replies to texts or confirmations. They were all enjoying the weekend, which was the correct thing to do with a weekend. I was the one holding the thing together, so my rest became the variable. That's how it usually works. Whoever is most responsible for the outcome is least free during it.

At some point during the odd hours of Sunday night, I did the math on what the weekend was worth to me. Nothing. The launch would go as planned, unscathed. The client response would be stellar. The time it took from me wouldn't be a remote thought.

A few weeks later I was walking through an airport and saw my own copy on a billboard.

A campaign I'd built. Lines that came out of late-night brainstorms no one else had stayed awake for, printed at a scale you could read from across the terminal. My name was not on it. My name was never going to be on it. It was purchased, at a rate I agreed to, and then owned forever.

I stopped walking. I took a photo, sent it to my closest friends, and wrote: where's my money?

They laughed. I laughed. It was a joke and it was the most honest thing I'd said in months.

This is simply a component of the career I have chosen. You design the narrative that makes a brand desirable. You find the language that makes a person or a product magnetic, and you get very good at it, and the better you get the less visible your contributions become. That's the craft working correctly. Nobody is supposed to see my hand in it. But I'd spent fifteen years making other people's things bigger, and the airport was the first time I saw the accumulated evidence at scale.

That's the part that stayed with me. Not the credit. The perpetuity.

I was already thinking about leaving before the terminal. Anyone who has considered it knows the thinking goes on much longer than the deciding does. But I had been framing it as a question about exhaustion, and exhaustion is a bad reason to leave anything, because rest fixes exhaustion and you can rest without blowing up your career.

The billboard reframed the question into one about ownership. How much more of my thinking did I want to hand over permanently?

That question has an answer, and it came fast once I stopped asking the wrong one.

So I took an inventory. Not of hours, which I already knew were bad, but of output — every campaign, every deck, every line that landed, every strategy that got adopted. Then I looked at what I owned outright at the end of fifteen years of that, and the honest answer was: my judgment, my taste, and a reputation held mostly in the memories of people who had moved on to other companies.

Real assets. But not the kind that compound while you sleep.

The second act gets talked about as a matter of confidence, or permission, or finally believing you deserve more at forty. The harder question is one of equity. Whose balance sheet does your best thinking land on, and are you all right with that answer for another fifteen years?

I wasn't. That was the whole decision.

The work I do now is smaller than that billboard by every measure that would show up in a media plan. There is no terminal in the world running my copy at scale this month. But I own it, and it accrues to me, and when something I build works I don't have to make a joke to my friends about where the money went.

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